I’m going to share a secret about how the French celebrate Valentine’s Day.
There is nothing more the French dislike or disapprove of than coerced or contrived expressions of emotion. Among my friends, the holiday was treated cynically, and viewed as an American capitalist endeavor.
Romantic, isn’t it.
I can’t help but sense that the obligatory aspect of the holiday, combined with the expectation of a gift and fulfilling sensual experience, needlessly causes stress to many people, in both financial and emotional realms.
Since stress is the thief of arousal, consider framing the holiday in terms of relaxation, or alternatively, self-love.
For starters, get enough quality sleep.
Use an eye mask to make your surroundings completely dark. Blackout curtains are also often necessary, because the artificial light that streams into your room from outside suppresses melatonin, and interferes with your circadian rhythms.
Drink a herbal tea, preferably with valerian root and chamomile, to make you feel relaxed and sleepy. Yogi Tea bedtime does wonders for easing me into slumber.
Then again, as the famous poet Dr. Suess once said, “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”